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<p>Today, many women choose to become single mothers with help from a sperm donor. In fact, about 50% of the women ordering donor sperm from Cryos are single mothers to be. These women are often referred to as Single Mothers by Choice, as they choose to have one or more children on their own. They may or may not wish to have a partner, but when they choose to have a baby, it is with the prospect of becoming the sole parent of the child. In other words, for these women, single motherhood is an active choice.<br><br></p>

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<h2 data-pm-slice="1 1 []"><span class="display-3">Why consider donor sperm as a single woman?</span></h2>
<p>There can be different reasons for <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/becoming-a-single-mother-by-choice-the-complete-guide/">becoming a Single Mother by Choice</a>. It may be that you have not found the right partner to have children with, that you are confident and happy about being single but still wish to have a child, or that you prefer to be the only parent responsible for your child&rsquo;s upbringing.<br><br>Whether the time is right for you to consider single motherhood through <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/about-sperm/sperm-donation/">sperm donation</a>, or whether it is the right option for you at all, depends on different factors such as your age, health, and dreams. If you dream of finding a partner to have children with, you might consider becoming a Single Mother by Choice as a last resort. Many women think about this for a long time before making the final decision to go at it alone, and that is perfectly understandable. However, if you postpone the decision too long, you may at some point need to consider whether having a child on your own is better than not having a child at all. If you wait too long, it will reduce your chances of becoming a Single Mom by Choice, as a woman&rsquo;s fertility starts to decline significantly during her 30s. If you have any health issues such as endometriosis, PCOS, or similar that might reduce your chances of getting pregnant or require fertility treatment, you should take this into account as well. In other words, you should not wait too long to start your journey towards parenthood.</p>

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<h2><span class="display-3">Using donor sperm to become a Single Mother by Choice - 5 steps</span></h2>
<p>There are different ways to have a child as a single woman. One of them is using a <a title="See our selection of sperm donors here" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/find-donor/search-sperm-donors/">sperm donor</a>, which is a popular choice for several reasons. All donors at a sperm bank like Cryos are thoroughly tested for infectious and genetic diseases, making donor sperm a safe choice. You get to carry the child yourself and be genetically related, and finally, by <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/getting-pregnant-using-a-sperm-donor-in-the-uk/">using a sperm donor</a>, you have full parental rights to your child.<br><br>In the following, you can learn more about becoming a single mom with help from a sperm donor. This will hopefully give you an idea of what to expect.</p>
<h3><span class="display-4">The first step towards becoming a single mother</span></h3>
<p>If you have decided to become a single mother with the help of sperm donation, the first step is to find a fertility clinic or doctor who can perform the treatment. There are a lot of clinics offering their services, and we understand that it might seem like a bit of a jungle at first. If you would like assistance in finding a clinic, our <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/about-us/contact-cryos/" target="_top">Customer Care Team</a> will be happy to help you. At Cryos we have a wide network of high-performing clinics around the world that offer fertility treatment with donor sperm from Cryos.</p>
<h3><span class="display-4">Planning your treatment</span></h3>
<p>Donor sperm can be used in different types of fertility treatment. Your doctor or fertility clinic will help determine which type is ideal for you. Usually, the first step will be insemination with donor sperm, also called <a title="Read more about IUI treatment here" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/iui-treatment-how-it-works/">IUI treatment</a>. This is a simple treatment, in which the donor sperm is injected into the woman&rsquo;s uterus at the time of <a title="Learn more about ovulation here" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/how-does-ovulation-work-understand-the-phases-of-your-cycle/">ovulation</a>. It takes a few minutes and is usually pain-free - but requires a little planning, and perhaps a hormone treatment, to make sure that the insemination happens at the exact time of ovulation. Other options are <a title="Read more about IVF treatment here" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/ivf-treatment/">IVF treatment</a> or <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/what-is-icsi-treatment-learn-how-it-works-step-by-step/">ICSI treatment</a>, in which eggs are retrieved from the ovaries and fertilized in a petri dish before the fertilized egg is transferred back into the uterus.<br><br>Learn more about <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/about-sperm/about-donor-sperm/">getting pregnant with donor sperm here</a>.<br><br></p>

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<p style="text-align: center;"><br>We have made our very own children&rsquo;s book with a Single Mother by Choice version &rsquo;My Miracle&rsquo;, as we want to help donor-conceived families talk about donor conception. The book was made with help from Cryos&rsquo; Donor Child Consultant, Emma, who is donor-conceived herself. Click on the button to read more about the book.</p>
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<h3><span class="display-4"><br>Deciding on a sperm donor</span></h3>
<p>Once you know which treatment you are having and where, it is time to decide on a sperm donor. Many Single Mothers by Choice choose a donor with similar physical or personality traits as themselves. Others look for a donor that they could see themselves dating or being friends with, and yet others again have completely different reasons for their choice of a donor. Before making your choice, it is a good idea to consider whether you want to make the decision on your own, or if you prefer to involve friends or family, to have someone to discuss your thoughts and choice with. Just remember that the final decision is yours, and it is important that it is something you are comfortable with.<br><br>Learn more about <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/choosing-a-sperm-donor/">how to choose a sperm donor</a>.</p>
<h3><span class="display-4">Preparing for future siblings</span></h3>
<p>If you dream of becoming a Single Mother by Choice to more than one child, you may benefit from reserving donor sperm for future children as soon as you get pregnant with your first child. By making a <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/how-to/how-to-order-donor-sperm/reservation-for-later-use/">reservation of donor sperm for later use</a>, you can use the same sperm donor for future treatments, and your children will then be genetic siblings. You will also spare the energy and avoid having to once again decide on which donor to use.</p>
<h3><span class="display-4">Talking to your child about being donor-conceived</span></h3>
<p>When having a baby as a Single Mother by Choice, your child will probably realize at some point, that some families look different than yours, and that some children have a father. There are different ways to explain donor conception to children, but a general recommendation is, to be honest from the start. Learn more and find advice on <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/for-parents/how-to-talk-to-your-child-about-donor-conception/">how to talk to your child about donor conception</a>.</p>
<p>Want to begin the process towards becoming a parent? Create a free account to find your perfect sperm donor.</p>
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<h2><span class="display-3">The mother-child relationship in Single Mother by Choice families</span></h2>
<p>Some of the concerns that many women have when considering single motherhood through the use of sperm donation are about the well-being of the child. Will one parent be enough for my child? Will I be able to provide everything that my child needs during their upbringing? In the video below, you can watch an interview with Susan Golombok, a researcher at the Center for Family Research at the University of Cambridge. She has studied families created by solo mums by choice and in this video, she shares some of the findings from her study. You can also follow the link to learn more about the <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/choosing-single-motherhood/">common concerns many single women have before entering single motherhood</a>.</p>

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<h2><span class="display-3">Things to consider before becoming a single mom</span></h2>
<p>Becoming a parent is amazing &ndash; but also hard work, and even more so if you are doing it on your own. Before embarking on this amazing journey, it is a good idea to consider it carefully. Here we list some important things to consider before becoming a Single Mother by Choice.</p>
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<li><strong>If single motherhood is not your plan A</strong><br>If you would prefer to find a partner to have children with, you should carefully consider whether you are ready to give up on that dream. Becoming a single mom by choice does not mean that you must give up on finding Mr. or Mrs Right, but it does make you the sole parent of your child, and you cannot expect a future partner to be as involved with your child, as if you were a couple deciding to become parents together. Nevertheless, if your biological clock is ticking (a woman&rsquo;s fertility drops drastically after turning 35), it is worth considering whether becoming a Single Mother by Choice is better than the risk of not having a baby at all.<br><br>Read the personal thoughts and advice from <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/solo-mother-by-choice-about-following-her-dream/">Tanja, a single mom of twin girls</a><br><br></li>
<li><strong>Other people&rsquo;s reactions</strong><br>Most people in your network will probably be there to support you on your exciting journey towards motherhood. But some may also question your choice of becoming a Single Mother by Choice &ndash; perhaps because they are not aware of the many <a title="Read more about the different types of families here" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/rainbow-and-same-sex-families-an-faq-about-the-modern-family/">different family forms</a> we see today. Some people still think of a family as a mom, dad, and children, and for your own sake, it may be a good idea to consider how you wish to deal with people&rsquo;s curious questions. It can be helpful to know in advance how to stand by your choice of becoming a single mom. Remember that it is your life and only you know what is right for you.<br><br></li>
<li><strong>Financial aspects</strong><br>When becoming a Single Mother by Choice, you are the only one providing for yourself and your children. This is a <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/common-challenges-for-single-mothers-to-be/">common challenge for single mothers</a>. To avoid constantly stressing about your finances, it is a good idea to follow a budget and put some money aside every month, as this will help you prepare for any unexpected events or expenses. There is also a lot to gain by buying secondhand baby gear, clothes, etc., and not being too proud to accept gifts and help from others.<br><br></li>
<li><strong>Involving family and friends</strong><br>As a single parent by choice, you will be the only person responsible for your child, but that does not mean that you must be alone or do everything by yourself. On the contrary, it can be an asset to have people around you who can support you on your journey. We recommend that you speak early on with friends and family members that you would like to involve and talk to them about how they can support you. Some people may wish and be able to help you on a practical level while others may be there for you with emotional support. It is also a good idea to find someone that you feel comfortable involving in big decisions, such as which donor to use and later which daycare or school to choose, etc. This could be your own parents, your sister or brother or a close friend.</li>
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<p>A survey among single women who used Cryos donor sperm shows that 50% consider a good support system as the main factor for making it work as a single mom. Learn more about this and other <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/7-facts-about-single-mothers-by-choice/">facts about single mothers by choice in this blog post</a>.<br><br></p>

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<h2><span class="display-4">5 tips for future Single Mothers by Choice</span></h2>
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<li>Involve others and build a support system</li>
<li>Accept that you cannot do everything perfectly</li>
<li>Prepare as much as possible before your baby arrives</li>
<li>Take time to be you - without your baby</li>
<li>Learn from other single mums</li>
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<h2><span class="display-3"><br>Resources for solo moms</span></h2>
<p>If you are either considering or in the process of becoming a single mom through sperm donation, it might be helpful for you to read personal stories from other women who have made the decision to go at it alone. In Cryos&rsquo; blog, you will find several personal stories from Single Mothers by Choice, including the blog post about Marije, who <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/single-mum-by-choice-there-i-was-38-years-old-and-single/">became a single mum by choice at the age of 38 years old</a>. You can also find a list of <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/6-books-for-single-mothers-by-choice-and-their-children/">books for Single Mothers by Choice</a>.<br><br>We also encourage you to join our <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/cryosinternational/">Facebook group Family Dreams</a> where you can get in touch with other women who are on their way to motherhood or who have already had a child with the help of donor sperm. On Facebook, you can also find many other communities which are created by single mothers.</p>
<p>Finally, if you have any questions or would like advice on how to become a single mom with help from a sperm donor, you can of course <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/about-us/contact-cryos/">contact us or book a free call</a> with our Customer Care Team. We are here to help you every step of the way.<br><br></p>

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<h2><span class="display-3" style="font-size: 24px;">Frequently asked questions about Single Mothers by Choice</span></h2>
<h3><span class="display-4">What is a Single Mother by Choice?</span></h3>
<p>A Single Mother by Choice is a single woman who has the desire to start a family and the courage to do so on her own.</p>
<h3><span class="display-4">Why become a Single Mother by Choice?</span></h3>
<p>The main reason for women to become Single Mothers by Choice is their desire to have a child. Some women become single mothers because of a wish to raise a child on their own terms and some do it because they have not found the right man, but still want to start a family.</p>
<h3><span class="display-4">Is being a Single Mother by Choice selfish?</span></h3>
<p>No.&nbsp;<a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/donor-conceived-children-everything-you-need-to-know/">Donor-conceived children</a>&nbsp;are generally doing well, and these children, including children of Single Mothers by Choice, often feel like the most wanted children on the planet, as their parents have gone through a lot to have them.</p>
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<p><span class="display-6">Are you considering using donor sperm to have a baby on your own? At Cryos, more than half of the women we help to become parents are Single Mothers by Choice. Below, you can learn more about becoming a single mother with help from a sperm donor.</span></p>