6 books for lesbian parents
Are you about to embark on the journey of parenthood or already raising a child with your partner? If so, you may find the books in this blog post interesting. There are books relevant for both parents and children in two-mother families. Hopefully, you can use the books to find guidance or inspiration for you and your child(ren).
Books for the lesbian parents
In this section, we have found three books relevant to lesbian parents. The recommendations are a mix of personal stories and concrete advice from women in two-mother families. We hope these books may come in handy or serve as inspiration during difficult situations or challenges you may face.
The Little Book of LGBTQ+
Children are naturally curious and ask a lot of different questions. As a parent, you want to provide your child with a fulfilling answer when they ask you a question, but it is not always easy to do so. Sometimes, you need inspiration and help to give your child a sufficient answer. The Little Book of LGBTQ+ is a valuable resource for your child's questions about various family structures. The book is designed as a dictionary, making it easy to understand and use.
If These Ovaries Could Talk
The first book we want to recommend is based on a podcast for lesbian parents. Jamie Kelton and Robin Hopkins have written the book If These Ovaries Could Talk. Through a series of interviews, you gain insight into the experiences of non-traditional families, with a particular focus on LGBTQ+ families. Hopefully, you can learn from the experiences or find inspiration in how other two-mother families structure and live their everyday life.
Confessions of the Other Mother: Nonbiological Lesbian Moms Tell All!
It does not get more personal than the book Confessions of the Other Mother. The author Harlyn Aizley and her partner wanted a child, so they decided to try and get pregnant through fertility treatment with donor sperm. The treatment was a success and Harlyn was the one carrying and giving birth to the child. But, once her partner started to interact with the child and call herself mommy, she experienced feelings of betrayal, as she was the one who had carried and given birth to their child. Harlyn wanted to share her feelings while finding other women with similar experiences to try and provide an unexplored perspective on lesbian parenting, shedding light on diverse motherhood experiences for all readers.
Books for the children in LGBTQ+ families
In this section, we focus on the children in LGBTQ+ families as they will experience that their families appear different from their friends or classmates. The books are also focused on donor conception, as many lesbian couples have used donor sperm to fulfil their dream. Books are one of the best ways to introduce donor conception and different family structures to your child.
We Are Family
We Are Family is an engaging picture book showing how all families are unique and special. During the book, you can see how some families include a lot of people, while others only include two or three people. In other cases, family members look like each other, and sometimes they do not. The message of the book is that size, shape, and physical appearance does not matter in a family, the only thing that matters is that family members support and love each.
Mommy, Mama, and Me
Another great book for children to learn about different family structures is Mommy, Mamma, and Me. The book contains illustrations most children will find appealing and interesting while focussing on activities every child can relate to. Read this book to show your child a warm portrayal of family life, while teaching them about the diversity of family structures.
The True Colors of Family
The last book we want to recommend differs from the other books we have recommended. The True Colors of Family is a colour book where children can learn about the different family structures while expressing themselves creatively. It is one of the only colour books that contain multiple family structures, and it is a great way for children to learn about different family structures.
If you are a two-mother family or planning on becoming one, you may want to read more about sperm donation or explore the options in our Donor Search. You can also click on these links to read personal stories from other women who chose to follow their dream and become parents:
- Having a baby: Julie and Camilla's fertility journey
- Being the non-biological mother to a donor child – Lisa's story
- Fertility treatment abroad: When Phoebe and her wife went to Denmark