A proud solo mother by choice – Mam tells her story

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<h2><span class="display-3">French solo mother by choice</span></h2>
<p>My daughter was conceived through IUI with <a title="Donor sperm for fertility treatment" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/about-sperm/about-donor-sperm/">donor sperm</a> from Cryos. The decision to become a solo mother was very easy for me. I saw myself getting older and not finding the ideal life companion, so I decided to become a <a title="Single Mother by Choice" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/about-sperm/why-use-a-sperm-donor/single-mother-by-choice/">single mother by choice</a>. Despite this choice, it does not mean that I am now off the dating market!</p>
<p>My whole family supported and encouraged me in my effort. It was important for me to know that they would accept my choice. Also, my friends who have always been very present in my life supported my decision. Today, they are all delighted to share moments with me and my daughter.</p>
<h2><span class="display-3">Choosing the right donor</span></h2>
<p><a title="The Ultimate Guide to choosing a Sperm Donor" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/choosing-a-sperm-donor/">Choosing a sperm donor</a> was not an easy thing, because it felt like an extremely important decision to make. That is why I spent many hours behind my computer screen looking at the different profiles Cryos had to offer in their <a title="See our collection of sperm donors" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/find-donor/search-sperm-donors/">Sperm Donor Search</a>. In my search for the perfect donor, my focus was on finding someone who matched the physical criteria I liked. The colour of his eyes and hair was very important to me, as well as his height. I also really liked the possibility of hearing the donor's voice, which also played a part in my choice.</p>
<p>It took a long time, but once I found the perfect donor, I was even more sure of myself and able to take the next step - insemination. Luckily, it worked on the first round - and nine months later my daughter was born.&nbsp;</p>

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<h2><span class="display-3">The solo mother roller-coaster</span></h2>
<p>The daily life of a solo mother is a bit like riding a roller-coaster. There are days when things are fine, and everything goes as planned. I try to take advantage of my daughter&rsquo;s nap, to rest at the same time. But occasionally, there are days when everything does not go according to plan and the fatigue of being a solo mother takes its toll. Days where I would love to be able to pass the baton to a partner. Luckily, my mum lives nearby. So, if I need a break or a babysitter, she is very helpful and always willing to come over.&nbsp;<br>&nbsp;<br>Despite the fatigue and the days when everything does not go according to plan, being a mum is extraordinary and provides me with indescribable moments. Moments that I do my best to treasure these as I know it is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.</p>
<h2><span class="display-3">A typical day in our life</span></h2>
<p>We usually wake up around 9 a.m.&nbsp;By&nbsp;then&nbsp;she is&nbsp;hungry&nbsp;and&nbsp;it is time to&nbsp;get&nbsp;fed.&nbsp;Afterwards, I&nbsp;play&nbsp;with her until naptime.&nbsp;I am fortunate to work from home&nbsp;which means that&nbsp;I&nbsp;have the pleasure of my&nbsp;daughters&rsquo; company&nbsp;while working.&nbsp;In the afternoon,&nbsp;we play again&nbsp;yet&nbsp;before another nap. Then&nbsp;I give her a&nbsp;bath and finally&nbsp;another&nbsp;meal&nbsp;in&nbsp;the evening before&nbsp;we go back to bed. My daughter&nbsp;and I&nbsp;sleep in the same bed&nbsp;so I can breastfeed without having to get up at night.&nbsp;<br>&nbsp;<br>Being a solo mum is very intense and takes a lot of energy, but it is all worth it because my baby gives me so much happiness every day. Even though it can be challenging at times I hope to have a second child someday&nbsp;as I would love for&nbsp;my daughter&nbsp;to&nbsp;grow up with&nbsp;<a title="Saving sperm straws for future treatment" href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/how-to/how-to-order-donor-sperm/reservation-for-later-use/">a sibling</a>&nbsp;to play with.&nbsp;<br> &nbsp;<br>I would like to encourage other women with the desire of being solo mothers to not be afraid and follow their dream of motherhood. You will never feel alone again, and your child will fill your life with happiness!&nbsp;<br>&nbsp;<br>If you are curious about Mam&nbsp;Issabr&eacute;, she shares her journey as a solo mother on social media. Here, you can follow her&nbsp;<a title="Instagram: Follow Mam on her journey" href="https://www.instagram.com/mamamansolo/">Instagram</a>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<a title="Facebook: Follow Mam on her journey" href="https://www.facebook.com/issabremam/">Facebook</a>. If you want to read more stories about Solo Mothers by Choice and their children, we can recommend our blog post about <a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/marisa-single-mother-by-choice-from-portugal/">Marisa - a single mum from Portugal</a>.&nbsp;</p>
<h2><span class="display-3">Relevant material for Single Mothers by Choice</span></h2>
<p>If you are considering becoming a Single Mother by Choice and want to learn more about the process or find inspiration to begin your journey towards parenthood, then follow some of the links below to learn more:</p>
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<li><a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/how-to-get-yourself-pregnant-without-man/">How to get yourself pregnant without a man</a></li>
<li><a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/podcast-recommendations-for-single-mothers-by-choice/">Podcasts for Single Mothers by Choice</a></li>
<li><a href="/en-gb/dk-shop/private/blog/6-books-for-single-mothers-by-choice-and-their-children/">Books for solo mothers</a></li>
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