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How to pick a sperm donor - Whitney and Megan’s tips

Whitney and Megan from What Wigan Did Next share their advice on how to pick a sperm donor

Whitney and Megan are wife and wife and soon to be mothers. If you feel you know them from somewhere, it is probably because they have a YouTuber channel called What Wegan Did Next with no less than 50K followers! Whitney and Megan have decided to start their baby journey with Cryos, and they have just picked their sperm donor. Here Whitney and Megan share their best tips on how to pick a sperm donor after going through the process themselves.

My wife and I have just celebrated our 12th anniversary and we’ve discussed for years about having children. We’ve even had future baby names picked for about a decade! We always talk about what our child would look like if we could combine our DNA, but alas this is not an option for a lesbian couple. So the next best option is choosing donor sperm that we feel is the right fit to help us make our dream family a reality. Here’s what we learned along the way on how to pick a sperm donor.

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Lesbian Whitney and Megan (What Wigan did next) chose Cryos as their sperm bank

Choose the right sperm bank for you

We looked into so many different sperm banks in the UK, Europe and America. We started with UK Sperm Banks and we were shocked by the lack of information that they provided. We didn't like that we weren’t able to see baby or adult photos and couldn’t go off characteristics along for such a big decision for us. We were so happy when we came across Cryos International Sperm and Egg Bank, based in Denmark, and ultimately decided that it is the right sperm bank for us for multiple reasons.

Here are a few of the reasons why we decided on Cryos International as our chosen Sperm Bank:

  1. Immediately felt accepted and catered for. Everyone that we have come into interaction with at Cryos has been simply the loveliest!
  2. Cryos has been operating for 30 years, so we knew that they were trustworthy and experienced.
  3. Sperm can be shipped worldwide, a big factor for us in the UK!
  4. All donor are genetically screened with a medical history and about 5 - 10% who apply actually pass the screening.
  5. The options of sperm donors and information provided. You can opt for Non-ID or ID Release donors, and we chose to look at ID Release donors as we want our child to have the option to find out more about their donor, should they wish to.
  6. Access to pictures of the sperm donors, both as adults and from their childhood! It makes such a difference getting to see what the donor looks like as a child and an adult.
  7. Some donors have Extended Profiles, which means that you get to find out more about them as they answer so many questions, so it gives a bigger insight into the type of person that they are.
  8. The donor writes a handwritten note to you as the parents-to-be and your future child, which is so sweet!
  9. You get to hear their voice!

All of the above factors helped us to pick the right sperm donor for us and to feel safe and secure in where we are purchasing our sperm from. If you are going to receive fertility treatment with donor sperm in the UK, you might want to read our blog post Getting pregnant using a sperm donor in the UK.

Wegan chose a Cryos sperm donor to have a child together

Figure out what you’re looking for in your sperm donor

It’s important to sit down and make a list of what exactly you’re looking for. You may find this changes over time but it gives you a good starting point.

Non-ID or ID release?

First of all, you’ll need to decide if you want to look for a ID Release or Non-ID Release sperm donor. We had already decided to search for an ID Release donor, which means that our child can find out information about him when they turn 18 years old; should they wish to do so. You can also search by treatment country and it will show all donors that comply with your countries sperm donor requirements. For example, in the UK it is not possible to have a Non-ID Release donor for treatment in the UK. Furthermore, donor sperm can only go to maximum 10 families. You can also search for exclusive donors, which means that they will only go to one family.

Medical background

Obviously, the medical health of the donor is of utmost importance and we felt confident knowing that all donors are medically screened in accordance with Cryos extensive quality assurance programme. Donor candidates are rejected if they have a family history of serious hereditary mental or physical diseases. They also undergo a thorough physical and mental examination, as well as being tested for infectious and hereditary diseases. Lastly, they are screened for normal karyotype (chromosome profile).


As we want to use the same sperm donor for each of us to carry a child, thus making our children be blood-related, we decided that we wanted to find a sperm donor that closely resembled our features as much as possible. To do this, we started our search by looking for donors with blonde, dark blonde and light brown hair. From this, we looked at their baby photos to see if any of them resemble each of us as a child and then their adult photos to see if they held any similar characteristics.  We narrowed down a few donors on Cryos after looking in depth, but ultimately there was one donor that stood out to us. We spotted him as a baby and he really reminded us of Whitney. After looking at loads in depth, we had narrowed down our no.1 fav through the other reasons below, though we had only seen one baby photo. We were so excited to get access to adult photos to see if this would confirm if he is the right choice for us, and as soon as we saw his photo it confirmed it. As an adult, we were able to see that he has quite a few of Megan's characteristics as well.

Wegan consist of the lesbian couple Whitney and Megan who have chosen a sperm donor from sperm bank Cryos

What type of person are they?

We'd been looking for the right sperm donor for a few months and ultimately we wanted to find a donor who we feel is a good person and holds similar viewpoints as us. The extended profile enabled us to really get to know his personality and all of his answers gave us the impression that he's kind heartened and similar to our views. The description given by Cryos about the donor also matched this.

If you want inspiration regarding your choice of Donor Profile, then follow the link to our blog post 3 things to consider when choosing a Sperm Donor Profile.

Why do they want to be a donor?

One of the most important factors for us was reading what the donor’s had to say as to why they became a donor. Not only this but you get to hear them read out the letter. Hearing their voices really gave an extra insight into them. When we heard our donor’s voice, he sounded amazing! Any close family or friends cannot believe how great his voice is! Not only this, but his words mean so much. His letter to the child is pretty much what sealed the deal!

All of the above factors lead to us deciding on the perfect donor for us. We purchased 5 straws from Cryos and reserved the donor sperm for 4 years. As we don't know how many we may use in the first round(s) of getting pregnant and to hopefully have a few reserved for a sibling!

We hope this blog post helps shed some light on how to go about choosing the right sperm donor for you. If you have any further questions, then you may find we answer them in our Q&A all about sperm banks and sperm donors.

If you are curious about the process of how lesbian couples can fulfil their dream of a baby, then follow the link to read all about it and the different possibilities for you and your partner. You can also read other personnel stories from LGBT+ couples, like Julie and Camilla that used Cryos to fulfil their dream of parenthood.