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Today, more women are choosing to have a child on their own and become a Single Mother by Choice. About 50 percent of Cryos&rsquo; families are single mothers to be, and this number has been increasing in the past few years.&nbsp;
There are many reasons why women choose to become single mothers. Many are confident and happy about being single, but still wish to have a child. Others have been unable to find the right partner to have children with or find that they want to be the only parent responsible for their child&rsquo;s upbringing.

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<h2>Becoming a Single Mother by Choice</h2>
There are several considerations to think about when choosing to become a single mother. In the following information, we have gathered some discussion points you may want&nbsp;to&nbsp;think&nbsp;about when making the decision to have a child on your own.  &nbsp;
<h3>What are your options?&nbsp;</h3>
Many women make the choice to use a <a href="/en-us/us-shop/client/find-donor/search-sperm-donors/">sperm donor</a> on their journey to motherhood. You have the option to <a href="/en-us/us-shop/client/blog/how-to-choose-a-sperm-donor-the-ultimate-guide/">choose a sperm donor</a> who has the same characteristics as you and your family, including similar hobbies and interests or completely different&nbsp;characteristics.&nbsp;Sperm donors are tested for many genetic and infectious diseases which makes this a very safe and popular option for many women. Most importantly, <a href="/en-us/us-shop/client/about-sperm-and-eggs/donor-sperm/why-use-donor-sperm/">using a sperm donor</a> will give you the full parental rights of your child.
<h3>How will you involve family and friends?&nbsp;</h3>
As a single mother, it is within your best interest to build a support network that includes the most important people in your life. Speaking with family and friends will help determine how they might support you. Some people may be able to help you on a practical level, while others may just be there for you to support you on this emotional journey. &nbsp;
<h3>How will you deal with people&rsquo;s reactions?&nbsp;</h3>
Most people in your network will support you on your exciting journey towards motherhood. However, other people who are unfamiliar with the changes in society may question your choice.&nbsp;
It might be wise to prepare some answers to deal with people&rsquo;s curious questions. It can be helpful to know in advance how to explain and stand by your choice. This can also help you prepare for how you will answer your child&rsquo;s question about your family dynamic later in their life. Remember, that this is your life and only you know what is right for you. &nbsp;
<h3>Who to discuss big decisions with?&nbsp;</h3>
Throughout your pregnancy, and as you raise your child, there will be big decisions to make. Sometimes considering the perspective of outside influences may help you to make the best decisions for your child. It is a good idea to choose some people you feel comfortable with to discuss these important decisions. It could be your own parents, an aunt, your sibling, or a close friend who has children of her own.&nbsp;
<h3>How to tell your child?&nbsp;</h3>
Discussing how your donor child came into the world is often the best way to tell them very early in their life. Gradually, the child will understand it more and it will become an integrated and normal part of the child&rsquo;s identity. Understanding that they have a donor father early on, will help normalize the idea of your unique family.
<h3>Do you want siblings for your child?&nbsp;</h3>
You should consider if you would like your child to have full genetic siblings by using the same donor. When the child grows older, it can be comforting for the child to know that they have siblings they are 100% genetically related to. Here you can read more about <a href="/en-us/us-shop/client/how-to/how-to-order/reserving-your-order/">when and how much donor sperm to reserve for genetic siblings</a>. 
<h2>Relationships between Single Mothers by Choice and their children</h2>
When you have decided to become a single mother, it is normal to think about your future relationship with your child. Some of your thoughts may be: Will one parent be good enough for my child? Can I provide all that he/she needs during his/her upbringing?&nbsp;&nbsp;
In the video below, you can watch an interview with Susan&nbsp;Golombok, a researcher at the Center for Family Research at the University of Cambridge. She has studied families created by SMC. In this video, she shares some of the study findings.

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<h2>Accept that you cannot do everything perfectly&nbsp;</h2>
Being a parent will always be a mix of fantastic, exciting, challenging and frustrating moments. It is important that you tell yourself that you are doing the best you can. You are just as capable of raising a happy and healthy child as families with two parents. The idea of doing everything perfectly or giving the child everything they wish is a false narrative for any parent. This is completely normal and something we must all accept as parents. 
Books about becoming a Single Mother by Choice&nbsp;
To help you in the decision-making process, it can be great to read books that talk about the aspects of being a solo mom. Below we have gathered a list of useful books to read when making this decision:
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<li><a href="/en-us/us-shop/client/blog/6-books-for-single-mothers-by-choice--their-children/">6 books for single mothers</a></li>
<li><a href="http://www.solomomtoadonorchild.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Solo Mom to a Donor Child</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/Choosing-Single-Motherhood-Mikki-Morrissette/dp/0618833323/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1366616908&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=Choosing+Single+Motherhood" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Choosing Single Motherhood: The Thinking Women's Guide</a> </li>
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<h2>Learn and connect with other single mothers like you&nbsp;</h2>
The decision to become a single mother is a big step that entails many thoughts and considerations. In this process, it might be helpful for you to read personal stories by other women who have also made this decision. We recommend that you visit our blog, where you can read stories by other single mothers.&nbsp;
We also encourage you to join our Facebook group <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/cryosinternational/?ref=pages_groups_card&amp;source_id=1775176102753285" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Family Dreams</a>&nbsp;Cryos USA where you can get in touch with other women who are&nbsp;also&nbsp;on their way to motherhood.&nbsp;You will also find other moms&nbsp;who have already had a child with the help of&nbsp;a sperm&nbsp;donor.&nbsp;You can also search&nbsp;Facebook&nbsp;for&nbsp;other communities&nbsp;to join,&nbsp;which&nbsp;have been&nbsp;created by single mothers.
<h2>Contact Cryos</h2>
If you are curious about single motherhood, then feel free to contact our <a href="/en-us/us-shop/client/about-us/contact/">Customer Care</a> which can help you with answers on everything from choosing a donor to <a href="/en-us/us-shop/client/about-sperm-and-eggs/donor-sperm/home-insemination/">home insemination</a>.

Single Mothers by Choice

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Single motherhood is both challenging and rewarding. On your journey there are many things to consider when deciding&nbsp;to&nbsp;become a single mother by choice. Cryos discusses how to work through the challenges and create a support system for you and your future child.